Because Love is Always Pure ...

Because Love is Always Pure ...

"Love cannot be learnt or taught. Love comes as grace" ~ Rumi

With that said, this post is not an enumeration of what is Love nor a passage glorifying love, its all about understanding "What is Not Love". My experiences so far with friends and their sufferings has actually inspired to draft out this article with the Hope that it may also helps others understand themselves better. Again, below is my opinion and learning from blessings of my Lord!

We often find people "falling in love" with someone "because" of their looks, their goodness, their charm, their earnings, their character and the list of reasons can grow longer. Each of us, at some point in life, would have had such an experience, when we "realized" we have fallen in "love" with someone "because"...

My dear friends, pause back and think, can the two words "love" and "because" coexists? Recall that one person in life whom you love unconditionally to the extent that the minimum you can do for them is dying. It could be your mother, father, wife, children, friends, teacher  etc. Now tell me, why do you love that person? In case you find a reason, ask yourself, if that reason didn't exist still would you have loved that person?... You have the answer. First and foremost, there are no reasons for love. Its just there, existing forever, never began, never stopped, has always been there and will remain forever.

We also many times hear people saying, "when we were in love", but now the love no longer exist! Guys, relax and think again, if love is the driving force in our life and its still driving you, is it ever over? The feelings you mentioned that no longer exist, was it love or attraction or something else ? If you love your mother, do you think that love can vanish even after your death, will her love not give you strength forever, no matter where you are. It could be mother, father, children anyone. But who so ever's love has made you strong, can that love ever vanish from your heart? Love is constant, rather will only grow with time. If it ceases, realize yourself, it's not love!

We say we have fallen in love and now "that love" has given us pain for life as the person we love only hurts us back. You feel depressed, unable to move forward in life, unable to recover the constant pain burning in your heart. But guys tell me, is it really that person's fault whom you think you have fallen in "love" with or your own misunderstanding? Love will only bring peace and even if it hurts, that wound will still help you grow in life and not halt your progress, the wound of "Love" will only transform you to a shining gold and not destroy you mentally, emotionally or physically. 

All major religions prohibit pre-martial sex. We live in a so called "open-minded" society, which is often a misunderstood term. Open-mindedness, in my opinion, means "accepting" both good and bad, encouraging the good and leaving behind the bad. But not "adapting" the bad. So lets analyse open-mindedly why our holy scriptures consider pre-martial sex as a sin, or in a broader perspective let's understand first "what is a sin". All religions, all paths converge to the same "God" , God who is love himself, God who created this world out of love, God, who we all are part of. What, therefore, opposes love opposes God. Hence, in simple words, anything not love is a sin! So why pre-martial sex with someone we "love" is a sin. God could have allowed it just when two people had fallen in love, why we have so many rituals, the society and everyone involved when it's just about two people? The answer is, my dear friends, love is not that narrow, its too big and beyond the two people. When we love one, we love all. Its not just for one, but for all! That's the glory of love! When two people are truly in love, that love will bring peace and prosperity not just for those two individuals but to their surroundings, to the world and the universe!  Lord Krishna said in Srimad Bhagwat Gita, we are from society and not society is from us. Only when the families, the people around the two individuals accept their love, should the two people unite in marriage. If not, it is our duty to win the hearts of the family members and then unite, that itself teaches love, humility. With their blessings the process then goes further to marriage which is not just a union of two individuals but two families, and lives of all people connected to those those individuals.

The question still remaining is, why the pre-martial sex still a sin and not love? It does not requires two families to be involved. Why only after marriage is it pure, why the major religions call pre-martial sex a sin? The answer again is very simple, Love is always pure! When the society pro-creates and grows out of love, it nourishes, progresses but when it is born out of lust, jealousy or any other feeling than love, it will grow evil. The ultimate goal of human life is to realize it's true form, which is love , it is the path which itself is the destination. Love is from the soul! Its far deeper than the skin!!! When two souls unite with the blessings of God, their elders and society after marriage, should they unite further to make this world of God grow with pure love! Remember, its just an expression of love, and not love in itself!

The next question that arises is why only one individual, one lover. For those who are in love, will not need any answer. For others, the answer is, Love happens only once! Love story should be one only. The union of souls is a commitment of a lifetime service. Love is always true and true love will always be loyal, it won't need any control. So marry someone you Love to know better. 

Because, love is always pure...